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FAQ Prepared by: Zahra Ibrahimi Q: As a step-mother (of about 35) I have been somehow mistrusted by two step-daughters (14 and 17) for two years; since I have married their father whose ex-wife, passed away four years ago. No matter how hard I try to win their love and trust, I seem to be unsuccessful. My husband is a kind man and tries to help me tolerate the undesirable behavior of his daughters. I believe in God’s help and so am hoping for a desirable change, so I refuse to think about divorce especially because I know my husband needs my help a lot and is also thankful. On the other hand, my parents are planning to move to another city where they can enjoy the good climate and the peaceful lovely environment. They are rich enough to support me and insist that I get a divorce and start a comfortable life with them. Would you please help me make the proper decision? (Nazli, Turkey) A: Dear Nazli, It is very good that you are a believer in God’s help. Rest assured that Allah, The Gracious God will help you greatly, besides of course rewarding you greatly for your faith and for your efforts towards being a good wife and a good step-mother. Your step-daughters may sooner or later find out that you are loving and sympathetic to them. But even if, for any reasons, they fail to appreciate your kindness, it is not advisable for you to get a divorce, since through your marital life and tolerating the hardships it involves for you, you are getting close to God Who has promised help and best rewards for those who render patience in His way. Try to find more and more trust in Allah and the resulting peace of mind through reciting at least 50 verses of the Holy Qur’an every day. Q: I am a 27 years old woman who, by Grace of Allah, has given birth to a sweet girl 3 weeks ago. I face some problems breastfeeding my newborn daughter, could you please give me some suggestions on the problem! (Shiba, South Africa) A: Dear Shiba, since a new mother's diet can affect her breast milk, what a breast-feeding mother eats can be as important as when she was pregnant. Do eat a well balanced diet of plenty of fruits, vegetables, beans or meats, and whole grains. Do get plenty of calcium via dairy foods like milk and cheese. Talk to your doctor about calcium supplements and other ways to get more calcium. Don't take any medications without talking to your doctor. Don't smoke. Don't use caffeine. Don't eat foods that seem to bother your baby. | ||
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